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The two wheels below are a keystone of Step-Up. The overall goal of the program is to help youth move from the abuse wheel to the respect wheel. The curriculum is designed to address behaviors in each section of the wheels, teaching skills to stop abusive behaviors and replace them with corresponding behaviors on the respect wheel.

The wheels are also used as a tool for raising awareness of behavior, and demonstrating accountability about behaviors used at home every week. Youth use the wheels at the beginning of each session to reflect on their behavior the previous week and report to group what they did that was abusive and respectful at home.
Youth use the wheels to make weekly behavioral goals- choosing one behavior from the wheels to work on during the week and reporting back to group the following week about their progress.

The wheels provide a framework for talking about behavior. When a teen says, “I had an argument with my mom”, the facilitator asks, “Were you on the ‘abuse wheel’ or the ‘respect wheel’ during that argument?” If the teen was on the abuse wheel, the next question is, “how could you have talked to your mom about that and stayed on the respect wheel?”

The skills in the curriculum help teens and parents learn how to talk about problems, argue and resolve conflict while staying on the ‘respect wheel’. Parents report that the wheels give them a new way to talk about behaviors at home, i.e., a parent might say to their teen, “can you say that again, and stay on the respect wheel?” Step-Up families get to know the wheels very well by the end of the program, and have a tool they can continue to use long after they leave Step-Up.